9 out of 10 Questions Don’t Need an Answer

Do you sense that some questions are not really questions because you sense that the question is  piggy-backing another meaning than that indicated by the words. Research in “Synectics”, a process of problem solving, has shown that nine out of ten questions that people ask are seeking something other than information. The “something” people are seeking is recognition, stimulation or demonstrating that they’re “one-up” on the person called upon to answer. Based on what motivates questioners, questions can be classified into three categories:

·   Message questions     

Questions Comments Concerns Customer Support Diagram

 ·   Getcha questions

·   Answer-Seeking questions

Message Questions

A message question is one in which the asker is using a question to present an idea, state a conviction or share information. Sometimes message questions are statements without the raised tone of voice that signals a question. Program moderators try to guard against message question when they say, “No statements, only questions.”

Usually when that happens, message senders are a little more skillful in phrasing what they have to say as a question. Message questions begin with phrases such as, “Don’t you think,” “Have you ever considered,” “Since” and “What would happen if.” The asker of the message question is looking for affirmation of his position or idea.

Message questions account for about 45 percent of questions asked. An effective way to deal with the message question is to agree with it, thereby stroking or affirming the asker. When the idea or opinion is unacceptable, it is important to personally recognize the asker in some way. For example, you can say, “I sense that you have given this a great deal of thought and have some feelings about it. I share your concern, and my thinking is. . .”

     Getcha Questions

The getcha question is used to reveal a blemish in the speaker or his question. The goal of the getcha questioner is to be “one up” by making the answerer appear inadequate, show anxiety, embarrassment, guilt, or anger. The getcha questioner is trying to toss somebody else his or her hot potato of anger, fear or woe. And,  people who catch the hot potato may change it from anger to anxiety or get angry themselves.

Getcha questions often begin with “Why” or “How come” and they account for about 45 percent of questions asked. Getcha questions are actually games in a behavioral sense. Because games are predictable, it’s not necessary to become defensive and fall into the trap set by the getcha questioner.

There are a variety of ways of dealing with these hot potatoes. One way of dealing with them is to admit the failing, yours or someone else’s and say, “You got me!” or “You’re right!” Admitting that the getcha questioner is correct depends upon whether the facts support the getcha questioner, and whether it’s appropriate to say so. Once you’ve acknowledged the getcha player and his point without hostility, there’s not many places left for him to go.

You can disarm a getcha player by saying, “I give up!” or asking a disarming question. Another way to deal with a getcha player is to redefine the question in terms of a message that you want to get across. If you’re asked a “when-did-you-stop,-beating-your-wife “question, such as, “When is your company going to stop evading government pollution standards and finally put an end to ruining the community?” you can state that your corporation employs and serves people and you can’t do either without a healthy environment. It’s important to have in mind the message you want to convey and not to restate the accusation of the questioner.

With an angry person, you can find something to stroke, such as, “We are glad to live in a community where people care about their environment,” and  “I am glad to see people willing to commit themselves to ideals they believe in.” It may be necessary to do this as many as three or four times. Another technique is to agree and disagree. Agreeing with part of the point being made and then disagreeing questioner is to be “one up” by making and by presenting factual evidence, differences of opinion or your own feelings. For example, if you’re representing a medical association and being asked a question by someone who’s using a question about the high cost of health care to put down MDs, you can agree that there is a problem and that caring for the health of 300 million people is too big a job to be done without doctors, and propose what needs to be done to assure an effective health care delivery system.

Sometimes you will need to confront the getcha question by asking “Are you trying to start a fight with me?” or asking the getcha player to talk with you about what’s really bothering him or her. Another way of confronting is to say, “If we keep this up, the next thing we know we’ll be out in the hall at each other’s throat.” In dealing with getcha questions, it’s important to stay in the “here and now.” Re-living past history is the communications equivalent of walking into a mine field.

Humor can be used effectively in dealing with getcha questioners. Illustrating the use of humor is an incident which Lloyd George, the fiery Welshman and Prime Minister of England, experienced in a parliamentary campaign. A major campaign issue was home rule, and Mr. George, who was a home rule advocate, was exhorting an audience with, “Home rule for India!” “Home rule for Ireland!” when a burly man at the back of the crowd stood up and shouted angrily, “Home rule for hell!” George paused, and then retorted, “That’s right, that’s right, each man for his own country!”

Answer-Seeking Questions

The answer-seeking question is the only one in which the questioner is truly looking for an answer. The answer being sought may be facts, opinions or the sharing of feelings. Answer-seeking questions account for only about one of ten questions asked. Questions beginning with “How” are frequently answer-seeking.

As a rule in answering, make your most important , point first, particularly if you’re dealing with the press. The key to picking up whether a question is carrying a message, seeking to put you down, or asking for an answer is by focusing on the way the question is asked. Voice tone, facial expression, posture and gestures are indicators of hidden messages.

People can often tell a getcha question by the feeling they get in the pit of their stomachs. If you want to experiment with this, record a meeting or speech followed by questions. Play back the tape several times, including one time in which you turn down the volume so that you listen only to tones. Then check out how many questions need an answer.

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Saving Money and Living Frugally This Summer

Jar of MoneyThe economy may be heading towards an upswing (although this is debatable), but there’s still nothing more important for many people than finding ways to save money on a daily basis. Living frugally can be difficult, especially if you’re not used to watching your finances. This being said, there are plenty of ways to live a more frugal lifestyle without having to resort to any type of discomfort. In other words, you don’t need to make huge sacrifices to embrace this style of living. Living frugally will help you to:

  • Build up a savings.
  • Practice self-restraint.
  • Avoid the “guilt factor” associated with over-spending.

So don’t just sit around worrying about your finances – do something about them!

“Green Up” Your Home A lot of people look at the concept of doing home renovations as being more of a way to spend money frivolously than anything else, but this does not have to be the case. There are plenty of ways that you can renovate your home to make it more energy efficient, which can help to save you a great deal of money in the long run and also improve the health of the environment. Installing fluorescent light bulbs is one of the easiest ways to start, with solar panels perhaps being the next step towards energy independence. If you aren’t at this point yet, however, you might simply with to start by switching to a utilities company that offers “green,” energy-efficient services. One of the best things you can do if you have an expensive heating system that utilizes oil is to switch to natural gas. Natural gas is not only more efficient, but it’s less harmful to the environment and is a cleaner source of energy. When looking for a provider, be sure to view site(s) for a financial breakdown of how much you could be saving by switching to natural gas.

Avoid Going Out to Eat Dining out can be a very enjoyable experience, but it can also be extremely costly. Even a simple meal at a family restaurant can cost over $100, money which could easily be reserved for buying groceries. Instead of dining out frequently, try to save restaurant meals for special occasions and consider putting more effort on cooking at home. Cooking for your family (or even just for yourself) can be a rewarding, meditative experience. Even if you’ve never learned how to cook, it’s easy to pick up on certain techniques, some of which can be applied to a variety of different styles of food. By taking the money that you would spend on a restaurant meal and putting it towards groceries, you’ll be able to get a lot more bang for your buck.

Stick to Generics Everyone needs basic necessities for the home like toilet paper, cleaning supplies etc. It’s easy to overlook just how costly these things can get as they add up, however. This is especially true if you purchase name-brand products, which can sometimes be $1 more expensive (or even higher than that) than generic equivalents. There’s really no reason to use anything other than generics in this case, as they tend to be practically the same as their brand-name counterparts. You’ll be amazed to find out how much money you’ll save on your next shopping trip if you purchase all generic items vs. name-brand goods, especially if you go through a lot of these types of necessities on a weekly basis. Take a step back and ask yourself if you could be doing more to save money. Chances are that you can, and there’s no better time than now to start.

Saving Money and Living Frugally This Summer The economy may be heading towards an upswing (although this is debatable), but there’s still nothing more important for many people than finding ways to save money on a daily basis. Living frugally can be difficult, especially if you’re not used to watching your finances. This being said, there are plenty of ways to live a more frugal lifestyle without having to resort to any type of discomfort.

Guest Author This author of this article is Katherine Smith, a freelance writer, who most often writers about personal finance, education, and when she can, health. Katherine has been reading and writing only for a few years now and when she isn’t in front of a screen you can find her running or biking! You can read more writing by Kat at paidtwice.com

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Is Fixing Things and Repair a Sustainable Living for You?

One sector of the economy that is prospering since the downturn began in 2007 has been repairing items we used to throw away and buy anew. Now increasing numbers of people fix things themselves, turn to a repair service, or check out thrift stores. For example, in our community the man who repairs leather and vinyl furniture has never been so busy in his more than twenty years in business. Car repair shops are keeping busy and independently owned shops are doing well.

Items once destined for junk yards and landfills are being acquiring new lives. For example, shopping bags are being turned into handbags, old cast iron radiators are being converted into electric heat systems, and new products are coming out that make thing easier to repair, such as Sugru, a silicone material that is used to patch punctures, smooth rough spots and sharp corners, fixing broken ceramics, and dozens of other fixes.

If you are handy or a quick learner when it comes to working with your hands, you may be able to create a livelihood repairing anything from toys to  bikes, lawn-mowers, lamps, jewelry, watches, clock repair, small appliances, musical instruments, sports gear, furniture to anything you hear or learn people or businesses wish they could repair. If you lack a skill at something that might be useful, look for and secure the necessary training.

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Turning Pickiness into Your Income as a Way to Find a Sustainable Living

If you’re a picky person and like caring for others, the eternal problem of people, particularly children, having lice in their hair may provide a livelihood for you. Lice are not particular about whether the hosts they latch onto are rich or poor, so your clients can come from all economic strata.

You need to be prepared to respond to calls for your service quickly, as once parents discover their child has lice, they want them out immediately. So plan to provide this service in your clients’ homes.

Nitpickers need a supply of nit combs, hair care products, and towels. In addition to the fees you charge for your service, you can sell these. Before you start, however, check to see if your community has an existing lice removal service.

You can find examples of lice removal services on the web on sites like louseynitpickers.com, Lice Squad Canada, and The Texas Lice Squad

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The Reemerging World of Bicycling

As the price of gasoline continues to rise, more and more people are turning to alternatives to driving. For example, ridership on public transportation is up. A lot of people prefer to bicycle – in part, because it affords a means of exercising.  This gives rise to businesses that serve bicycle riders. For example, here are some:

Making custom made bicycles, such as high-end custom super-light carbon fiber cycles for enthusiasts costing over $2000, to ones for overweight people, to practical cargo bikes suitable for delivering freight, such as being done by Transition Industries in Tucson, to tricycles for uses like collecting and distributing books, such as Bicicloteca, a mobile library.

Cargo bikes for delivering freight
Custom Bicycles for cargo delivery fromTransition Industries

    Providing services of all kinds, such as:

  • collecting compost – for example Ecoscraps in Salt Lake City and Tempe, Arizona.
  • delivering cargo (even furniture)
  • taxi services for rescuing stranded cyclists, such as being done by London’s ClimateCars.  www.climatecars.com
  • repairing bikes from a van or truck going to where the bicycle is. This is being done in Europe by companies like Fix Fiets and Bikemobiel
  • delivering soup
  • organizing bike tours
  • renting bicycles
  • organizing bike sharing systems such as in Dublin and ways for bicycles owners to rent out their bikes. Spinlister is an example of this.

Adapting bikes for new bicycle technology, such as alternatives for bicycle chains, such as belt-driven systems made of polyurethane

Converting bikes into e-bikes. A kit is made by Shimano.

Producing add-on items like bike trailers, such as made by Ridekick,  that provide extra storage and battery power for e-bikes.

Developing, selling and installing technology for bicyclists, such bike-mounted sensors, apps, and mechanisms for using pedal power to produce energy to power mobile devices

Restoring old bikes, outfitting them with custom components and painted to the taste of the buyer.

Training people in classes or personal consultations to

– build bicycles, such as the United Bicycle Institute in Oregon and the Bicycle Academy in Africa.

–  ride with confidence such as being done by Pedal Portland is doing.

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Can you turn the high price of driving into a business?

Have increasing gasoline prices changed the amount of driving you do? If you own or are employed by a business that depends on customers coming to you, have you noticed a slump in the number of customers?

A way of dealing with this is to use services that come to you or turn your business into one which takes your goods or services to your customers. For example, instead of taking your dog to the groomer, the groomer comes to your home, or if you’re a massage therapist, you go to your client’s home or office. Other services that can be taken to customers include auto glass repair or replacement, auto body repair, bicycle repair, dent removal, hair salon services, knife sharpening, medical services like mobile mammography, notary services, and screen repair. Almost anything can be turned into a mobile service, for example, traveling wedding chapels and churches. There’s a service that provides portable staging, seating, sound and lighting equipment, and all types of support and transportation equipment for mobile churches. Food trucks are mobile kitchens are growing in popularity. You can learn more about them in a recent article Costco Connection.

The trend toward mobile services is being enhanced by the availability of technology like Square and Intuit’s GoPayment that enables accepting Credit Cards on a smart phone or  iPad, or Android.

Providing mobile service can be a new delivery method for your present profession or something completely new resulting from an expertise developed in your pursuit of an avocation. Going mobile will appeal to you if starting late is your preference.  Mobile providers can, for the most part, make their own hours.  If you like to drive, this is certainly for you.

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Architectural Salvage – Making Silk from a Sow’s Ear

One of the casualties of the collapse of the housing market has been the destruction of thousands of homes. With two million homes vacant at the present time, many more can be expected to be torn down beyond the 200,000 that are torn down in a typical year. These produce architectural salvage. Almost half of the 127 tons of construction debris when a two-thousand-square foot house is demolished can be salvaged and reused, and there’s a ready market for what’s obtained through salvage operations.

The advantages for people who buy architectural salvage are cost savings and being able to buy items and materials with histories.

Architectural salvage businesses can be specialized in a number of ways. For example, you can salvage particular materials, such as bricks, wood, or glass. You can specialize in specific building portions of a building, such as cabinets, doors, windows, molding, etc.

Does a livelihood with a growing need, requires no special licensing, has low start-up costs, low overhead, and flexible hours appeal to you?

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Community Management as a Sustainable Living

While community management of homeowner associations has been around for some time and even has its own trade associations, there are growing demands for management for other aspects of community life.  Three of the most promising in offering in career opportunities lie in housing that is association-governed, new community efforts arising from the localization movement, and  new types of housing association for seniors

Beacon Hill Village in Boston (www.beaconhillvillage.org) is a prototype community that allows residents to age in place.  The organization “contracts for household services (repair, cleaning, errands), transportation (to friends, airports, doctors), concierge services, meals and grocery shopping, and home health care.”

Community managers combine an interest in people, people skills, patience, a positive outlook on life, and the ability to manage employees and outside contractors.    Does a growing profession with a present and growing need, offers job as well as self-employment opportunities and requires no licensing, although low-cost credentialing is available, interest you?

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Patient Champion – A Promising Career

Do you know someone of who has been victimized in our health care system – family, friend, neighbor coworker or their relative? Whether they go undiagnosed, are overwhelmed by a hospitalization, are overcome by deciding upon expensive and difficult treatment they don’t understand and may not able to pay for, it’s difficult for people of all ages and circumstances to deal with today’s health care institutions, insurance, and practices.

Tens of thousands of people need champions to advocate the needs of patients , accompany them to doctors’  appointments, and when they are hospitalized,  explain their options, particularly those who are ill or enfeebled and don’t have relatives to do battle for them and  therefore are least able to deal with the system alone.

Patient champions combine a desire to help with know-how and the ability to  communicate with medical personnel with respectful firmness. Does an emerging profession with a present and growing need, requires no licensing, has low start-up costs, low overhead, and flexible hours appeal to you? For more information, see a full description at patientchampion.com.

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Are You Looking for How to Make a Living from Home?

We have developed a model based on the 16 basic needs of a resilient local community, grouping them into 3 areas:

1. Surviving – livelihoods related to basic individual survival:

  • Food & Water
  • Shelter
  • Clothing
  • Energy

2. Hiving – livelihoods related to basic local community survival:

  • Transport
  • Security
  • Health
  • Sanitation
  • Maintenance
  • Community

3. Thriving – livelihoods related to having a strong, enriching local community:

  • Education
  • Trade & Technology
  • Communication
  • Entertainment
  • Spiritual Life

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